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dilly ([personal profile] dilly) wrote2012-02-12 02:34 pm
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i am going to write today about something a friend once told me.

When you have children, give up on your dreams.

which i think is incredibly false. my children are a part of me yes, but my dreams will NEVER be given up upon JUST because i had children.

i dream of being a photographer. i want to try all sorts of stuff i never tried before. glamour, boudoir, fashion, runway, newborns, family, sporting events and so forth.

I've done a wedding. never doing that again. i give huge props to people who can do it. i would be a second photographer for one, but never a primary again. way too stressful.

i did do kids and families in studio while at the big box company, but want to learn more natural lighting, and setups with as little flash photography as possible.

i also want to try doing macro and landscape. i don';t think i got the eye for tiny photography or for landscape. i do know someone who shoots ants. his stuff is amazing and he should put together a collection of it for a gallery or something. i just can't look at it. i'm too squeamish about it.

so my kids can be part of my dream. If Anne Geddes can start from her incredibly humble beginnings, i can too. She is one of my photography heroes. and i really should go purchase her big coffee table book when i can. so amazing listening to where she started from.


i know i can get caught up in the little details. i would like a studio setup. i would love to have my living room be more versatile where i could move everything out or around and use it as a studio. i got a lot of natural light from one side, and enough room i could set up lights in there as well. one day. that is a $2000 dollar dream though~


so never give up your dreams. they might be put off for a little while. but never ever given up upon.
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[identity profile] emgy (from livejournal.com) 2012-02-12 10:09 pm (UTC)(link)
I whole heartedly agree with you!

Depending on your dream, things might be tougher to accomplish, but Children should be a blessing. Not a stop sign.

C does Ants too! He LOVES macro. I think its disgusting. He's photographed Ants, Wasps, Bees, Ladybugs, etc. He loves the macro. I can't do it. I like people photography. Romantic events. Personal events. I'm good at that stuff.

Your living room is an awesome place for photos! Especially with the natural light.

[identity profile] hep.livejournal.com 2012-02-12 10:28 pm (UTC)(link)
you can get lighting to do newborns in your living room for under $1K. i realize that is still a ton, but I am betting I could get it even lower, probably somewhere around $300.

www.strobist.com

all you need is an offboard flash, a line in hot shoe for your camera, and a 16ft trigger release cable. easy peasy. read all his stuff. he will explain.

[identity profile] redhotlips.livejournal.com 2012-02-13 12:20 am (UTC)(link)
If I can be so bold to suggest? Skip buying the Anne Gedes book and go for some of the fabulous business for photographers books instead. We all need inspiration, of course, but inspiration can be found online and more importantly, from within.

The most important thing you can do for the long term sustainability of your dream is to learn the business side. It's not enough to just have a dream, unfortunately.

XO

[identity profile] haasiophis.livejournal.com 2012-02-13 08:17 am (UTC)(link)
Children can be a part of your dream. I don't think you should give up on your personal pursuits and the things you love for your children. They could be delayed, you could have less time for them, but almost everyone can make time for their own interests even with children - at least once they are a little older. I think giving up on the things you love for them creates an unhealthy imbalance and maybe some resentment. To be the best parent you can be you need to take some time for yourself to. It is also a good example for your child - time management, taking care of yourself, healthy goals and interests. You can also get your kids involved with the things you love if they're interested. My kids will be playing in basic D&D games and coming to SCA events and all that when they are young if I have any say in it. You are a better parent when you are whole and mentally as well as physically well. It is more complicated but it is doable (usually) and important. I haven't read through the other comments so I hope I'm not repeating too much.

[identity profile] dracothrope.livejournal.com 2012-02-13 09:57 am (UTC)(link)
O_o If kids (or at least a family,) aren't at least a small part of one's dreams, why would a person be having them?

[identity profile] duskblue.livejournal.com 2012-02-14 03:17 pm (UTC)(link)
Good for you! You can have all those things! Go for it!! Being a mom doesn't mean you can't be the photographer you want to be!! :D
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