Children can be a part of your dream. I don't think you should give up on your personal pursuits and the things you love for your children. They could be delayed, you could have less time for them, but almost everyone can make time for their own interests even with children - at least once they are a little older. I think giving up on the things you love for them creates an unhealthy imbalance and maybe some resentment. To be the best parent you can be you need to take some time for yourself to. It is also a good example for your child - time management, taking care of yourself, healthy goals and interests. You can also get your kids involved with the things you love if they're interested. My kids will be playing in basic D&D games and coming to SCA events and all that when they are young if I have any say in it. You are a better parent when you are whole and mentally as well as physically well. It is more complicated but it is doable (usually) and important. I haven't read through the other comments so I hope I'm not repeating too much.
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Date: 2012-02-13 08:17 am (UTC)