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[dilly]

i am going to write today about something a friend once told me.

When you have children, give up on your dreams.

which i think is incredibly false. my children are a part of me yes, but my dreams will NEVER be given up upon JUST because i had children.

i dream of being a photographer. i want to try all sorts of stuff i never tried before. glamour, boudoir, fashion, runway, newborns, family, sporting events and so forth.

I've done a wedding. never doing that again. i give huge props to people who can do it. i would be a second photographer for one, but never a primary again. way too stressful.

i did do kids and families in studio while at the big box company, but want to learn more natural lighting, and setups with as little flash photography as possible.

i also want to try doing macro and landscape. i don';t think i got the eye for tiny photography or for landscape. i do know someone who shoots ants. his stuff is amazing and he should put together a collection of it for a gallery or something. i just can't look at it. i'm too squeamish about it.

so my kids can be part of my dream. If Anne Geddes can start from her incredibly humble beginnings, i can too. She is one of my photography heroes. and i really should go purchase her big coffee table book when i can. so amazing listening to where she started from.


i know i can get caught up in the little details. i would like a studio setup. i would love to have my living room be more versatile where i could move everything out or around and use it as a studio. i got a lot of natural light from one side, and enough room i could set up lights in there as well. one day. that is a $2000 dollar dream though~


so never give up your dreams. they might be put off for a little while. but never ever given up upon.

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[haasiophis.livejournal.com]

Children can be a part of your dream. I don't think you should give up on your personal pursuits and the things you love for your children. They could be delayed, you could have less time for them, but almost everyone can make time for their own interests even with children - at least once they are a little older. I think giving up on the things you love for them creates an unhealthy imbalance and maybe some resentment. To be the best parent you can be you need to take some time for yourself to. It is also a good example for your child - time management, taking care of yourself, healthy goals and interests. You can also get your kids involved with the things you love if they're interested. My kids will be playing in basic D&D games and coming to SCA events and all that when they are young if I have any say in it. You are a better parent when you are whole and mentally as well as physically well. It is more complicated but it is doable (usually) and important. I haven't read through the other comments so I hope I'm not repeating too much.